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My name is Liz I have been married for 15 years and I have been completely happy and secure in my marriage with my partner. However, a couple months ago my husband accused me of having an affair with our neighbour!
For a whole month before that he was making these deductions in his own head without asking or confronting me about this. He chose to confront the neighbour and I at the same time, while having a braai together, at our house!
Now, aside from the embarrassment (because it was absolutely not true) I feel like I don’t know my husband anymore.
I was so secure and confident in our relationship and marriage that I knew we were in it for the long run. Now, because this issue was sitting on his mind for a whole month before it blew up in my face, it makes me wonder how he could still have had sexual relations with me while thinking this all the time?
How could he think of me doing that to him, after I had reassured him time after time that he was my soul mate, that I love only him and that I would love him forever?
I am so shaken by this whole incident that I am now afraid to invite friends home, especially guy friends, acquaintances, etc. I own my own business, so I get invited to many networking functions, meetings, etc. and now I always feel I have to justify all the functions I attend and I am expected to relay minute by minute details of the event I attend.
I now feel nervous, unsure of my relationship with my husband, smothered and out of my depth, because I’ve been thrown a curveball that’s taken the wind out my sails.
Any advice on how to move forward?