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I plead to be anonymous,I desperately need your advice,It seems that my marriage is failing and I am not sure what else I can do.
Here is my problem:
I have been with my husband for 10 years now, married for five. We have a beautiful three-year-old daughter.
The road that we have been travelling has never been an easy one. From the beginning there have been problems and he has cheated on me at least twice that I know of. I have forgiven him and I have eventually got over that.
He had left his job near the end of last year and had decided to open his own company. We had no capital for him but we still decided to push through with it. It has been a very stressful couple of months for us, as he has been battling to find clients and has had no income.
When he gets stressed he takes his mood out on me and can become verbally nasty
I try and not argue with him and rather leave him alone, as I have noticed over the years of being with him that this is best.
Lately it has been extremely difficult for me as it has got worse. He has decided to close his company and rather look for another job. The last two days we have been arguing and fighting and now he is completely ignoring me.
I really do love him, but I do not know how I can deal with this anymore
I have continually supported him in everything that he has done, and now with the closing of his company he is saying he is a failure. I am still trying to convince him he is not, he didn’t have the correct tools at his disposal and that he at least tried. But still he keeps attacking me.
I know that he is super stressed, but so am I
I keep telling him not to take it out on me, as it is not right and the things that he says are very hurtful. I have previously been in a relationship where I was emotionally abused and it was terrible. I never want to go through that again, but can’t help thinking that this is where this marriage is going.
Please, I desperately need your advice as I do not want my daughter growing up where she sees that it is OK for a man to talk to her the way he talks to me.